"What do you want to be when you grow up?". I think I have heard this question about a million times. Its something that you get asked throughout your life. When you're a child, the answers don’t seem to matter because adulthood is so far away. For me I decided when I was six years old. There was nothing that could change my mind, and to this day I still want to be an adoption counselor.
I can't remember a time when adoption was not a part of my life, even if I didn’t know it at the time. It all started when my birth mother had me at a very young age. She was still in high school and she did not fit the star student mold. A couple years later my brother was born, and a year after that she had twins. By the time she was 19 she had four children. Obviously she did not have a very steady life. This lead her to the decision to give up my brother Justin and I.
Once she gave us up, we were put into a foster home. I didn’t know that it was a foster home at first, I was told we were staying with friends. Which was nothing new to me. Two and a half years went by with no moving or no changes, then all of a sudden I met some other "family friends". After I met these friends a lot of things started changing. I was told what adoption meant, I was told I was being adopted, and by the end of the week I was adopted.
The family friends I met, are now referred to as Mom and Dad. Love is thicker than blood and there is nothing that will ever convince me otherwise. My parents have been the companions to my greatest adventures in life and they will always be there when I need a reality check. My parents didn’t get stuck with me, they chose me, and they have dedicated their lives to Justin and I... even when were being "complicated".
As for today, they are helping me to plan for my future. Adulthood is no longer a far away dream, it has become a reality way to quickly. This is my last year of high school, and after a year off I will be going to college and university to become an adoption counselor, my six year old self decided that I would be good at it, and it was more realistic than becoming a princess. One day, I will find children forever families, because without my forever family, Id be completely lost.
More about Jessica
My name is Jessica. I am 17 years old and I'm in grade 12. When I was almost 6, I was adopted. My entire life was changed in the duration of a week. I have always been very verbal about my adoption, and when I was in grade 4 I spoke in a court for the first time. Since then I have done a ton of youth advocacy work and my experiences have inspired me to become an adoption counsillor, so that one day, I can help children find their own forever families.
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